Lessons from 30 something


Around this time of year I usually get reflective.

Fresh off of a birthday, I’ve been reflecting on what I’ve learned over the past year (or so), a few lessons to ponder and a few I hope to master in the years to come. What are some of the lessons you’ve learned? Hit the comments and let’s talk about it. Here’s what I’ve learned turning 30 something.

Sometimes the path is foggy (but there is still light)

There are going to be times when you have no clear path to what you want but you can still feel it in your heart, soul and being. There is a path and though it’s foggy, you can rely on the light to help you find your way. We want everything right now (and by we I mean me too), that anxiousness is what fog is made of. Patience is necessary in order for the fog to settle. Give the fog time to settle and be grateful for the light. I am grateful for the light for sure.

No is Necessary

I’ve never considered myself a yes person. If you know me you know that I’m extremely protective of my personal time, BUT I also love to learn, be involved and I’m a joiner by nature. This year I’ve had to learn to tell myself no first in order to tell others no. I think the reason we end up spreading our time thin down to the minute is that we don’t set our internal boundaries first. It’s been some work and a lot of evaluating on my part but I’ve learned to say no to myself first in order to give myself time to evaluate the opportunity and not jump at every “opportunity” presented.

Time will pass

I often hear people say “the time will pass, so you might as well (fill in the blank).” It’s true. The time will pass but that doesn’t mean you “might as well” do anything. Time is the one thing that every single day is made of, I challenge you not to be passive with that gift. Everything you do and give your precious time to should light you up. It takes a certain level of  consciousness to live by this rule, and something that I’ve had to work on this year but making sure there are less passive decisions is a lesson I’m taking with me from 31 to 32.

Buy the responsibility not the item

Whatever it is, a car, home, a platinum blonde hairstyle, please know that most purchases come with a responsibility tax. Don’t forget to add that tax when considering almost any purchase ever. How did I learn this lesson? Well, I have a house, a dog, and a car. Nuff said.

Good tribe vibes

This one is simple. To keep the people who give you the most joy close and the people who burden your heart as far away as possible. Good vibes matter more than you can easily pick up on but over time you’ll see the benefits of keeping good vibes close. You hurt nothing by managing your energy and the energy around you but mismanagement can really cause friction in every part of your life. Remember it’s all connected

Random side notes

Buy groceries, cook, save lots of cash, take cash and travel

The whole 30 diet works (like for real)

If you hate the job leave the job UNLESS there’s tons of money involved, in that case, pay your bills off first then leave

Have one cupcake a week

Stop calling shit guilty pleasure, it’s your pleasure you shouldn’t feel any guilt

Love more and when you miss someone tell them.

Last but not least,

You don’t need permission to be great, so be great unapologetically!



Tanida Mullen

Tanida Mullen is the visionary of the Savvy Young Professional, a live event and digital learning platform built for young professionals around the world.

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